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It Started With a Really Bad Tuesday
I am not someone who believes in quick fixes. I have spent years rolling my eyes at productivity gurus and their miracle morning routines that promise to turn you into a CEO before breakfast. So when my therapist suggested I try a simple 10-minute habit each morning, I almost laughed. Ten minutes? For the anxiety that had been chasing me for the better part of a decade?
But I was desperate. Sleep-deprived, overwhelmed, and running on cortisol and cold brew, I figured I had nothing to lose. That was fourteen months ago. What happened next genuinely surprised me, and I want to tell you exactly what I did, why it works, and how you can try it for yourself.
The Habit: Morning Pages, Done Differently
You may have heard of morning pages, popularized by Julia Cameron in her book The Artist’s Way. The traditional version involves writing three longhand pages of whatever is on your mind the moment you wake up. It is a beautiful practice, but for someone with a packed schedule and a wandering attention span, three pages felt like a mountain.
My version is simpler. Every morning, before I check my phone, before I make coffee, before I do anything else, I sit with a notebook and a pen for exactly ten minutes. I write in three distinct sections:
- Two minutes: Brain dump. Whatever is swirling in my head, good or bad, anxious or mundane, goes onto the page. No editing. No judgment.
- Five minutes: One thing I am dreading and why. Not to catastrophize, but to name it. To look it in the eye on paper instead of letting it chase me through the day.
- Three minutes: One small thing I am genuinely looking forward to. Even on the hardest days, I find something. A good cup of coffee. A phone call with my sister. A walk I had planned.
That is it. Ten minutes. A timer on my phone. A cheap spiral notebook from the drugstore. Nothing fancy, nothing expensive, nothing that requires a subscription or a wellness influencer to guide you through it.
Why This Works: The Science Behind the Simplicity
I am not a psychologist, but I did go deep into the research after noticing changes in myself. What I found was genuinely fascinating.
Writing Externalizes the Internal
Dr. James Pennebaker, a researcher at the University of Texas at Austin, has spent decades studying the psychological effects of expressive writing. His studies consistently show that people who write about their thoughts and feelings experience measurable reductions in stress, improved immune function, and better emotional regulation over time. The act of converting a swirling internal experience into concrete words on a page helps the brain process and categorize it. You are essentially moving anxious thoughts from the part of your brain that screams to the part that solves problems.
Naming the Dread Disarms It
There is a concept in therapy called affect labeling, which refers to putting feelings into words. Research published in the journal Psychological Science found that labeling an emotion reduces activity in the amygdala, the brain’s alarm system. When I write down what I am dreading, I am not wallowing. I am literally calming my nervous system by giving the fear a name and a boundary. It lives on that page, not in my chest all day.
Anticipatory Joy Is a Real Thing
The three minutes I spend identifying something to look forward to are not fluff. Research on anticipatory positive affect shows that the brain releases dopamine not just when good things happen, but when we expect them to happen. By consciously identifying even one small pleasure ahead of me, I am giving my brain a neurological reason to move toward the day rather than brace against it.
What Changed, and When
I want to be honest with you: the first week felt pointless. My brain dumps were messy and embarrassing. My dread entries read like a spiral. My look-forward items were sarcastic at best. But I kept the timer running and I kept showing up.
By week three, something shifted. I noticed I was arriving at work slightly less braced for impact. By week six, my partner mentioned that I seemed less reactive in the mornings. By month three, I realized I had not had a full-blown anxiety spiral in weeks, which, for me, was extraordinary.
I am not cured. I still have hard days. I still see my therapist. But the baseline has changed. The noise in my head has a designated place to go each morning, and the rest of my day is quieter for it.
How to Start Tonight (Yes, Tonight)
You do not need to wait for Monday. You do not need a special journal or a perfectly quiet house. Here is how to set yourself up before you go to sleep tonight:
- Put a notebook and pen on your nightstand. Physical proximity matters. If you have to go find them, you will skip the habit.
- Set a gentle alarm ten minutes earlier than usual. Not an aggressive one. Something soft that eases you into wakefulness.
- Decide in advance to leave your phone face-down until after you have written. The scroll can wait ten minutes. Your nervous system cannot.
- Write the three prompts on a sticky note inside your notebook cover so you are not reinventing the structure every morning: Brain dump. What I dread. What I am looking forward to.
- Lower your expectations gloriously. Your entries do not need to be profound. They do not need to be legible. They just need to exist.
A Note on the Days It Feels Impossible
Some mornings I wake up already behind. The baby is crying, the inbox is full, the day has already decided to be difficult. On those mornings, I do not do five minutes on dread and three on joy. I open the notebook and I write one sentence. Sometimes it is: I do not want to do this today. And then I close it.
That still counts. Showing up imperfectly is still showing up. The habit does not require perfection to work. It requires consistency, and consistency looks different every single day.
Final Thoughts: Small Rituals, Real Change
I started this habit as a skeptic and I am writing this as a convert. Not because ten minutes magically rewired my brain, but because ten minutes every morning gave me something I had been missing for years: a daily moment where I was the witness to my own inner life rather than its hostage.
Mental health is not a destination you arrive at. It is a practice you return to, again and again, in small and imperfect ways. And sometimes, that practice fits inside a ten-minute timer and a notebook that cost two dollars.
Give it thirty days. See what you find.
There’s something almost sacred about that ten minutes, isn’t there? I’ve found the same thing happens in the garden, actually – when my hands are in the soil and my mind is just… present. I think what you’re describing with the journaling and what I experience with tending plants is the same root thing: we’re giving our anxious thoughts permission to exist on paper or in the earth instead of spinning endlessly in our heads. Anya, I’m so glad you found that anchor during such a difficult time. Those small, daily practices are like the seeds we plant that don’t make a dramatic show but quietly, steadily grow into something that holds us up.
This hits different when you’re going through something heavy – I started journaling during chemo and honestly, those ten minutes became the only time my brain wasn’t running through worst case scenarios. There’s something about getting the noise out onto paper that lets you actually breathe. I love that you’re sharing this because so many people are waiting for some big solution when sometimes it’s just consistency and permission to be honest with yourself on the page. Bookmarking this to send to folks in my support group.
There’s something I’ve noticed in my work with horses that feels akin to what you’re both describing, this idea that sometimes the nervous system needs permission to just be, to move through something without trying to solve it head-on. Writing, gardening, grooming a horse, holding a pen for ten minutes, hands in soil, fingers on reins, the body remembers how to settle before the mind catches up. I love that you found those ten minutes during chemo, Anya, because that’s exactly when the noise gets loudest and most necessary to pour out. The quiet always comes after, not before.